LOVE IS RESTORATIVE. LOVE IS KIND. LOVE IS NOT ARROGANT.
LOVE DOES NOT KEEP AN ACCOUNT OF WRONGDOING.
LOVE GIVES YOU INNER PEACE. LOVE BUILDS RELATIONSHIPS.
LOVE ENCOURAGES. LOVE MAKES YOU MORE CONFIDENT IN WHO YOU ARE.
LOVE FILLS YOU WITH JOY. LOVE TRUSTS YOU TO MAKE YOUR OWN MIND.
LOVE DOES NOT INSIST IN ITS OWN WAY. LOVE IS PATIENT FOR YOU.
LOVE TAKES NO OFFENSE. LOVE IS LONGSUFFERING WITH OTHER’S FAULTS.
LOVE FORGIVES ALL THINGS. LOVE DOES NOT CAUSE CONFUSION or DOUBT.
LOVE DOESN’T DRIVE YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY AWAY.
The 1st Invisible Dot
Surely it wasn’t a big deal at the time. Your significant other was standing up for or supporting you. Reach back in your memory, and ask yourself:
- Early on in our relationship did my significant other say something offensive to (or about) the person they thought was my ” best friend”?
Did my “best friend” say they didn’t like my significant other or, did my best friend ask me why I liked my significant other? - If so, did I tell my ” best friend” that my “significant other” didn’t mean to be offensive- that’s just how my significant other is ? My significant other is generally charming but comes off sometimes as a bit rude- like they have little social skills.
- Did my ” best friend” reach out to me, and continue to reach out to me to connect and I brushed them off? Did I start to feel that my ” best friend” didn’t understand, and my “best friend” or family wasn’t acting in my best interest but was instead selfishly focusing on their needs to see me? Eventually, did my ” best friend”, or my family stop reaching out to me?
- It may be sometime after, or simultaneously: did my significant other start taking the place of my “best friend”? Did I start to confide in and rely on my significant other?
- When I had disagreements, misunderstandings, or fights with my family did my ” significant other” side with me? Did they repeatedly encourage me to work it out with my family, or did they encourage me to 1) pull away from my family in any way, 2) think for myself, 3) enforce my independence, 4) avoid my family, or 5) suggest in any way that my family didn’t have my very best interest at heart? ( Read TRIANGULATION below).
- Did my significant other encourage me to spend time with them and their friends or their family instead of mine?
Click The DOT to Keep reading to tell if your relationship might have the 1st “invisible dot” that you couldn’t and didn’t see.
If the dots are there, eventually you will see them; unfortunately, it will be after very much pain and suffering.
If they are there, you want to see them sooner than later! 25% of women and 14% of men are harmed by invisible dot relationships. There is nothing they could have done to know.
I saw them only because a woman showed them to me. She assured me the other side of seeing them was so much better. I assure you the same. When I left it changed me to be a stronger and better woman. The very best version of myself!
ASK YOURSELF: Do I have so much more inner peace and happy thoughts since I’ve been with them? Do I feel more confident in myself or less? Do I hear myself filled more with positive, uplifting thoughts since I’ve been around them? Do I have unexplained pains or symptoms of inflammation in my body since I’ve met them? Do I worry more about things that I didn’t worry about before? Am I confident in my own thoughts and feelings? Am I starting to question things that I hadn’t ever really questioned about myself before?
CHANGE ?
Invisible Dots = CHANGE
If you have experienced a change in your “family and friend” relationships, that you hadn’t desired before you met your significant other, and you didn’t expect it, there may be invisible dots.
NO CHANGE ?
THERE ARE NO INVISIBLE DOTS IF:
- your significant other is respectful to and of your “friends and family”.
- you are encouraged to spend alone time with your friends and family without him around and he is happy about it.
- your significant other respects you and wants you to be the same person you were towards your friends and family that you were before you met him.
LOVE BOMB ?
Everything was amazing! You were friends and then your love grew- lots of attention and would do anything for you. That still happens, but not like it did. Your relationship has matured. When the “honeymoon-love-bombing” begins to decline, starts “the blame your problems on” outside influences, which may include: parents, grandparents, siblings, other extended family, exes, best friends, and even children.
INVISIBLE DOT RELATIONSHIPS HAVE UNUSUAL CHARACTERISTICS
TRIANGULATION + SILENCE =
DISCORD
THE ADVICE YOUR FAMILY IS
GETTING
